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Time as a Personal Boundary: Understanding Its Importance
The discourse intricately examines the concept of boundaries in various contexts, particularly focusing on the spiritual and personal realms. One of the primary themes discussed is the significance of establishing boundaries when engaging with spiritual entities and the necessity of delineating specific times for such interactions. The speakers emphasize the importance of personal time and the need to communicate effectively with spiritual presences, highlighting that one can only engage with them during designated periods, such as during a live stream. This notion of time extends beyond spiritual interactions to everyday life, where individuals often struggle to assert their boundaries when it comes to social interactions. The conversation delves into the psychological barriers that prevent individuals from initiating such discussions, particularly their fear of social repercussions and the tendency to please others at the expense of their own comfort and time. Furthermore, the speakers explore the complexities of setting boundaries with friends and acquaintances, addressing the discomfort that arises when one feels that a guest has overstayed their welcome. They assert that it is entirely acceptable to articulate such feelings and to establish a clear understanding of when it is appropriate for someone to leave, despite the societal pressures that might discourage such candidness. The discussion underscores the need for individuals to cultivate the confidence to express their needs, thereby fostering healthier relationships built on mutual respect and understanding. In conclusion, the episode serves as a profound reminder of the significance of personal boundaries, not only in spiritual contexts but also in everyday social interactions. By elucidating the challenges and strategies for asserting these boundaries, the speakers encourage listeners to engage in self-reflection and to adopt practices that prioritize their own well-being and comfort.
Takeaways:
- The discussion emphasizes the significance of establishing spiritual and religious boundaries in one’s life.
- Personal time is a critical aspect of boundary-setting, particularly regarding communication with spirits.
- It is entirely acceptable to inform guests when their visit has exceeded an appropriate duration.
- Many individuals fear expressing their needs and boundaries due to societal pressures and the desire to please others.
- The podcast highlights the importance of asserting one's right to decline requests that infringe upon personal time.
- Establishing boundaries is essential for maintaining personal well-being and ensuring healthy relationships.
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Yeah, that would be example of spiritual and religious boundaries.
Speaker A:What else you got on your list there, rafiki?
Speaker B:Time.
Speaker A:Time.
Speaker B:Not as in, you know, we see it on the clock time.
Speaker B:What's your personal time?
Speaker B:What is your personal time?
Speaker B:I gave a couple examples a minute ago.
Speaker B:You know, when I set the boundaries with the, you know, with the spirits or, you know, people on the other side trying to communicate with me, they can only do it when I give them, you know, their time.
Speaker B:Not only that, between such and such
Speaker A:and such and such.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker B:Like, you can only come to me around the time that I'm streaming or, you know, per se.
Speaker B:Not right now.
Speaker B:Don't come now, y'.
Speaker A:All.
Speaker B:I'm not.
Speaker B:I'm just using that as an example.
Speaker B:But anyhow, yes, I just set a boundary.
Speaker B:Live, personal.
Speaker B:Up.
Speaker B:Up close in front.
Speaker B:Let's say, you know, I was streaming on the app or something.
Speaker B:I say between this.
Speaker B:This time that I'm streaming, and you see that I'm streaming and I'm actually doing readings.
Speaker B:Yes, you can come through.
Speaker A:All right.
Speaker A:But let's bring this real life to people.
Speaker A:Here's a real life boundary question with time.
Speaker A:Is it okay just tell somebody they've been over your house too long and it's time for them to go?
Speaker B:It's perfectly fine, though.
Speaker B:Okay to say that?
Speaker A:Yes.
Speaker A:Oh, yeah.
Speaker A:We sitting up here saying, yeah, it's perfectly fine to say that.
Speaker A:But you all know people are scared to say that.
Speaker B:You're 100, right?
Speaker B:They are, because I was about to say that.
Speaker B:Yes, perfectly fine to say it, but people get scared.
Speaker B:And you're about ready to.
Speaker B:You're about ready to hear something here.
Speaker B:Just in a minute when I finish, you know.
Speaker A:Yeah, it's perfectly fine to say it.
Speaker A:What'd you say?
Speaker B:Why are they scared?
Speaker A:I don't know.
Speaker A:Hey, it's y'.
Speaker B:All.
Speaker A:Y'.
Speaker A:All quick to say, yeah, it's perfectly fine to say it, but then why people don't do it while people be looking and rolling their eyes and all that.
Speaker A:Damn, I wish this person leave.
Speaker B:Do you know why I'm gonna give a little small gem?
Speaker B:Because they're too busy.
Speaker B:People pleaser.
Speaker B:The unhealthy side of boundaries, which we'll get into that here just in a little bit.
Speaker A:So here's another example of time.
Speaker A:Hey, someone who's always asking you to do something for them,
Speaker B:you got the right to say no.
Speaker A:Hey, can you babysit my kids for me?
Speaker B:No.
Speaker A:Gotta get comfortable telling people no.
Speaker A:Hey, hey, I don't have a. I Don't have a ride home from work.
Speaker A:Do you mind bringing me home?
Speaker B:Yes, it, it depends.
Speaker A:Is that, is that an example of time?
Speaker A:Because guess what, guess what that means you getting home later.
Speaker B:This is how, this is how I would handle a situation like that.
Speaker B:Okay, what side of town you going on?
Speaker B:Are you going my same direction?
Speaker B:Now, if I know you're going my same same direction and you get dropped off before I do, sure, I'll drop you off on my way.
Speaker A:Okay, then, if you're going on.
Speaker B:But now if you're going over yonder way and I got, I got at home, I got something that I know I'm waiting on.
Speaker B:I know, I'm sorry.
Speaker A:Now you're setting up a dilemma for people to go back and forth on.
Speaker A:Rafiki.
Speaker A:What, what is, at what point is, at how many minutes is out of, out of my way?
Speaker A:It's 5 minutes, 10 minutes, 15 minutes.
Speaker B:And again, you, as the person that's driving the vehicle, have that choices say yes or no.
Speaker A:Yeah, but you are correct.
Speaker A:But you know, they got somebody, some indecisive people right now in the, in there thinking right now, well, how, how, how long is that?
Speaker A:And so I'm just throwing it out.
Speaker A:Hey, and.
Speaker A:But you, you answered the correct.
Speaker A:It comes back to you on what you feel comfortable with.
Speaker A:If, if so, so if, if I, if I got a five minute rule and this person is six minutes and 30 seconds out, out that five minute rule, it's okay for me to say no,
Speaker B:say no.
Speaker A:05:15.
Speaker A:Well, I'm not gonna get, I'm not gonna get punished from the universe.
Speaker A:I'm not gonna get punished from the universe.
Speaker A:Rafiki.
Speaker B:No, because you, it's, it's, it's you
Speaker A:wait, but I'm not a, I'm not a bad person.
Speaker A:Am I a bad person because I didn't want to go that extra minute and 30 seconds.
Speaker B:No, it's the boundary that you set and you're standing on that boundary.
Speaker A:All right, if you say so, I'm gonna go with you.
Speaker B:I mean, I, it sounds harsh.
Speaker B:It may sound harsh, but the thing about it is you got to, you know, depend.
Speaker B:It all does depend on what you were actually doing that particular time in place.
Speaker B:If you gotta rush home because, you know, you, you got something on that, you know, that you left on all day.
Speaker B:That's cooking all day and sounds slow because you know, there are people that do that.
Speaker B:There are people that will leave food cooking all day long while they're at work, but they got it on low, low, low heat, so they have to get home.
Speaker B:So it depends on what is actually going on in that particular time.
Speaker B:Now, if I have nothing to do, of course I'll give somebody a ride.
Speaker A:But what if I have nothing to do and I still don't want to go that extra one?
Speaker A:1 minute and 30 seconds.
Speaker A:Is that okay?
Speaker A:I mean, I'm gonna get.
Speaker B:It's.
Speaker B:It's totally up to the individual.
Speaker A:All right, all right, all right.
Speaker A:What else you got on that, Bustilla?
Speaker B:Well, this is the one that's definitely gonna get.
Speaker B:You know, a lot of people's probably gonna rebuttal, but.
